Post by Rainbows Always on Dec 24, 2007 4:37:47 GMT -8
"Developing your spirituality basically means LETTING GO OF SELF WILL, of the determination to make things happen the way you think they should. Instead, you must accept the fact that you may not know what is best in a given situation either for yourself or for another person"
Post by Firststephie on Dec 24, 2007 17:10:56 GMT -8
New kid on the block agin here.... Yes, we never know if something is going to end up being good for us or bad for us. We think perhaps something must turn out a certain way....our minds tell us that's the way it has to be. We have to let go and let God. Example: We want a certain job so badly and we finally get it. We want a certain person in our lives. We may get that too. Both the person and the job may be exactly what we do not need in order to have serenity in our lives. Why did we push so hard for things that ened up being bad for us. ?
Only in total surrender do we find serenity. What we want so badly maybe not what is really going to bring us happiness and peace. If we're in a situation we're constantly obsessing about and is making our lives unmanagable--that's a sure sign we're not going in the right direction. I am practicing contrary action. My way hasn't worked so I'm seeing what's down a different path. I'm saying the resentment prayer even though I don't want to. And on day 4 of NC. Wooohoo!
Post by Susan Peabody on May 26, 2009 17:07:26 GMT -8
In AA the "resentment prayer" is praying for someone you resent everyday for I think 2 or three weeks. You pray that they get everything that they want. If if works, the prayers are meant to release you from the resentment.
Post by dawnbelieves on May 27, 2009 5:00:45 GMT -8
Wow, I think I should def try the resentment prayer. I have way to many people in my life that are really just getting me down. It actually didn't start happening till I started Monday Night Celebrate Recovery at my church. I am running into people from my past there and it is really becoming bothersome. I mean, these are people that I really don't want to be around but I have to try and remember that they are there for the same reasons I am. So far none of them are in my small group thank God. I just see them during worship and dinner/dessert. Be Blessed, Dawn
"Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God." 2 Corinthians 1:3-4
praying for someone you resent everyday for I think 2 or three weeks. You pray that they get everything that they want.
For so long I mistaken "an eye for an eye" or "get even" as assertive behavior. and mistaken forgiveness as " doormat " which might show weakness invite aggressive behavior on us.
I think the people do harm to others shall get retribution, and this is karma law...
This thinking get me trapped in resentment.
I eventually begin to understand, forgiveness is not for doormat. and It's not for the benefit of the trespass, It's for me! for the peace and happiness of myself!
When I eventually decide to bless everyone and everything. I feel a warm energy surround me. Like Greg said " second mirror in divine matrix". It's my judgment toward negative hold the negative around me. when I let my judgment go, the negative also go...
As I stop to want karma retribution for those trespassed me, for those I don't like, I also be forgiven and let go of my own retirbution... I am free myself...
Forgiveness and willing to be happy are same thing