You have a responsibility to yourself to recognize your part in all your pain. I just read this quote by Osho. It's a perfect message today. Wanted to share.
"When you have seen a little glimpse that you are the creator of your own misery, it will be very difficult for you now to go on creating it. It is easy to live in misery when you know others are creating it — what can you do? You are helpless. That´s why we go on throwing responsibilities on others." Osho