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Post by LovelyJune on Jul 5, 2011 3:51:43 GMT -8
OK, so he doesn't want to date you. She doesn't love you anymore. He left you for another woman. She told you she's just not into you anymore.
Ouch!
But all that pain aside, look at your life. WHat do you have in front of you RIGHT NOW? Are you grateful for it? Or are you still wishing for things you cannot have, or things that are not yours at this moment in time?
Gratitude is 90% of the hurdle overcome. Maybe it's time to be thank for what you do have, not what you want but cannot have.
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Post by Bo on Jul 5, 2011 4:40:58 GMT -8
I am gratefully able to sit with the pain and discomfort of the ouches.
(could not do it without a Power Greater than myself, which I am grateful to experience daily)
I am grateful for this board and your buckets of ice cold water (lovingly) thrown in my face to wake me from a fantasy world of disillusion and pain.
Like the soreness I feel when strengthening my muscles in the gym. I am grateful for the growing strength and health of my recovery.
I am grateful for my cozy little apartment and my life in a beautiful place. I have affirmations plastered all over my bulletin board, kitchen cabinets, bathroom, and mirrors to remind me daily of so many things I have to be grateful for. Thanks for the post.
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Post by LovelyJune on Jul 5, 2011 5:02:31 GMT -8
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Post by reinventmyself on Jul 5, 2011 8:12:50 GMT -8
One of the most sure fire way to snap me out of any negative thinking is to recite what I am thankful for: I have two beautiful sons that bring me more joy than words can ever express. They have grown into fine young productive men and that in of itself is more than I can ever ask for. I have a great career with a company that is solvent and growing inspite of the economy. I own my own home (well honestly the bank does) but I can hang a chandelier in my laundry if I choose. .and I did. . It's small but it makes me smile  I don't have alot of friends but I have a few beautiful trusted friends. I am grateful for this board and all that I have benefitted from reading others experiences and to those who have given me advise and encouragement. I belong to a ladies group that I feel I have so much in common with. I always leave any gathering feeling full and smiling. My mother is more like my sister and my hope is to keep her around for several more years. I live in So Calif, near the beach . . I don't have much to complain about. But I do. . I'd like to share all this with someone. But I seem to make bad choices and mistakes. So. . Instead I choose to be grateful!Thank you LJ for posting this string. Perfect way to start a day. |
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Post by brooklynberry on Jul 5, 2011 11:43:48 GMT -8
good post!
I am grateful for:
-the nice weather
-having a secure full time job
-my partner who shows up full for me
-that I was able to get my dad a nice, meaningful gift for his 60th b day
-iced coffee - so good!
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Post by LovelyJune on Jul 6, 2011 2:01:01 GMT -8
I'm grateful for iced coffee..but from a distance. I can only observe and witness the beauty without partaking or it'd give me the jitters!  |
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Post by Freetolive on Jul 6, 2011 2:53:11 GMT -8
You are so right. Stop wanting what we can't have. Be grateful. I'm on a daily gratitude list that is passed by email every day. It's cool.
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Post by notcrazy on Jul 6, 2011 3:36:01 GMT -8
I read your grateful thread yesterday and decided to write out thank you cards to my amazing friends who have been listening to me obsess forever.
I cried as I wrote them, but I am honestly so blessed to have these people in my life. I've told them all how much I love them and am thankful for their friendship, but there is nothing like a hand written card with a stamp on it! I felt so good that I even wrote one out to my mother (who I avoid like like crazy when I'm in this obsessive mode) apologizing for being distant sometimes and I told her I appreciate her.
I was out last night with one of my friends and my POA showed up to where we were. We have had no contact for 5 days. (we usually text, call and see each other almost every day) He cut me off at the knees and stopped contacting me and I don't know why, but I realize that it is an unhealthy relationship for me and I have to let it go. He said hello when he walked in and went to say hello to other friends. My friend looked at me and said "don't even think about staying, you are leaving with me". And I did!!!! That is so completely out of character for me. I felt so amazing and strong. Treating this toxic relationship like an addiction is the only way to recover and I didn't even realize any of this until I read Pia's book and found this board!
Since we are on the grateful thread...I am grateful for this message board. Thank you everyone.
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Post by LovelyJune on Jul 6, 2011 4:07:16 GMT -8
notcrazy-- what an awesome idea. Good for you.
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Post by sunflwrs4evr on Jul 6, 2011 7:27:28 GMT -8
I am grateful for my hp and being in recovery.....most of all...things i am grateful for...my health...my happiness... my home...my almost masters degree ....thats coming in the near future...my therapy group once a week...my peace and serenity....that i feel....the love i am feeling for me....this time.....my abstinence in my fellowships and working them one day at a time....i really need to do this once a day....because...i usually dont...and its helpful....i am so grateful for these boards.....dont know where i would be without them.....thanks to everyone ....Sun |
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Post by LovelyJune on Jul 6, 2011 11:00:17 GMT -8
I am grateful for... my kids! my home my sanity the neighborhood I am a part of my friends my strong, loving family my work (as I watch it turn into my career) the summer heat the fact that I can afford to go grocery shopping and buy foods I love my health (I can run marathons at age 43!!! Who's bragging??? being able to have a vacation this summer...I may not be able to have one next summer SIMPLY BEING ALIVE. Dear Lord, thank you! Not ready for the alternative. My one cup of black coffee in the morning Having a good head on my shoulders and one that was open-minded enough to allow me to break out of my sickness and find better health. That i can see, smell, hear, taste and touch things That i am living in a country that allows me to better myself and have opportunities that don't exist all over the world. |
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Post by brooklynberry on Jul 6, 2011 11:14:09 GMT -8
I'm grateful for iced coffee..but from a distance. I can only observe and witness the beauty without partaking or it'd give me the jitters! ha ha. it's the best! but I understand! I sought out virgin margaritas this weekend. I LOVE margaritas! |
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Post by overcomer on Jul 6, 2011 11:55:17 GMT -8
HB: "I LOVE margaritas! "
-That's LADIES' DRINK too! :-P
I'm grateful for every single thing and person that GOD sent into my life!:-)
Above all I'm grateful for GOD HIMSELF! <3
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Post by Freetolive on Jul 6, 2011 18:19:42 GMT -8
Lindy's Italian Ice....Orange
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Post by sillypoppet on Jul 6, 2011 20:18:50 GMT -8
I'm grateful for my family and friends... and my crazy little dog who has social anxiety for doggies. She's completely neurotic, but I still love her.
I'm grateful that I'm no longer with my ex PoA's because they SUCKED. I have had the coolest experiences and met really neat people because I was single. If I had been in a relationship, I probably wouldn't have done half of this stuff (i.e. Disneyland on New Years Eve- by far the BEST New Years Eve ever!!!).
I'm grateful for the delicious chocolate croissants at my work. Oh, and the espresso machine :-) It has saved my life on many work/school days.
Also, that I have been able to pay for my school in full. I have no debt, as of yet.
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Post by Susan Peabody on Jul 8, 2011 12:56:59 GMT -8
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Post by Jacarandagirl on Jul 8, 2011 15:56:39 GMT -8
Wow, this is hard to do this morning. I am grateful for what my father did for me I am grateful for my writing group I am grateful for the urge to give to others I am grateful for the love and the lessons my PoA gave me I am grateful for MY CHILDREN, now grown up, who are amazing and good people I am grateful for being able to live in peace, prosperity and beauty I am grateful for this forum and for all the healing possibilities open before me I am grateful for all the love that's here Attachments:
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Post by Bo on Jul 9, 2011 0:49:12 GMT -8
"I am greatful for everything
I have in my life right now"
This is an affirmation I have above my bed. I see it before I sleep and first thing waking up.
My apartment is filled with affirmations and I feel more and more wonderful every day! (hmm, that's not an affirmation, but it's true.)
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