cw
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Post by cw on Sept 6, 2012 8:46:32 GMT -8
I just started the inner child work a few days ago. One of the things to be resolved for me is a pretty serious period of physical, mental, emotional bullying in high school. Eventually, I had a breakdown, and got shingles at the age of 14. Shingles is the adult version of chickenpox, and is quite rare in children. It is triggered by stress.
Today, when I just sat and tried to get connected to my emotions, the image came into my mind of Little Me, battered and bruised and cowering.
I am working through John Bradshaw's Homecoming book. I am sure this will help. Any other suggestions of how best to work with this kind of peer rejection/bullying trauma?
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cw
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Post by cw on Sept 6, 2012 8:46:32 GMT -8
I just started the inner child work a few days ago. One of the things to be resolved for me is a pretty serious period of physical, mental, emotional bullying in high school. Eventually, I had a breakdown, and got shingles at the age of 14. Shingles is the adult version of chickenpox, and is quite rare in children. It is triggered by stress.
Today, when I just sat and tried to get connected to my emotions, the image came into my mind of Little Me, battered and bruised and cowering.
I am working through John Bradshaw's Homecoming book. I am sure this will help. Any other suggestions of how best to work with this kind of peer rejection/bullying trauma?
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Post by Susan Peabody on Sept 6, 2012 11:13:14 GMT -8
Not only love your inner child yourself, but choose your friends carefully so you can feel their love also.Most of our love should come from ourselves and God, but we are also human and need some outer validation as well.Take your inner child out to play with others.
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Post by Jacarandagirl on Sept 7, 2012 4:21:20 GMT -8
The work of Byron Katie. Download a Judge Your Neighbour worksheet from her website, fill it in with short, simple sentences, on the person you have the most charge on from that time, the person you have not forgiven. Don't be kind or spiritual. Answer the four questions and do the turn around, and set yourself free.
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Post by Susan Peabody on Mar 3, 2013 13:36:12 GMT -8
I was not bullied, I was tortured. One of my doctor's told me that some of my PTSD comes from having rocks thrown at me. Nothing makes me sadder than thinking of that sweet little girl who went to pre-school with such high expectations. From a movie in the 70's, "Bless the beasts and the children."
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Post by karensheart on Mar 4, 2013 0:54:26 GMT -8
I too was bullied... I was in Jr. high. and girls in my sicience class would get felt up in the back while class going on... I wanted to try that and wanted to be excepted by the cool kids and I was a wallflower dork. So I sent a note (we're talking 40 yrs ago .. lol) to the cool boy and that spread like widlfire. Never thinking about what would happen... so come the day to do it, I he felt me up and I felt like the whole class was watching and he said "there's nother there.." I had no boobs... and then he touched me down there too and said there's no hair and after that for the whole school year averytime I walked the halls or got on the bus they would call me"finger" I was so embarrassed, but i couldn't tell anyone cause I was so ashamed cause I asked for it. This was also around the time I was being abused by my dad. I even thought about suicide, put a steak knoife to my heart but freaked out and got real shakey and realized that's not what I wanted to do, I just wanted it ALL to stop but I had no control over it to stop it. The next year was better but there was still some bullying.
I'm so glad this subject is getting more recognition in the media so that kids can speak up to stop it and protect themselves and to also give them self enpowerment too.
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Post by tara on Mar 6, 2013 6:45:28 GMT -8
Heart Felt! Thanks for sharing. Love and compassion.
I was also bullied for being quiet and unsocialised and just too good (was totally into the way of love and fairness).
The hurt continues and the abused continued until recently I found my voice through recovery.
TARA
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Post by Loveanimals on Mar 6, 2013 23:27:41 GMT -8
I was bullied in junior high and it led to a suicide attempt.
Perhaps Susan is right in her book about peer rejection......I find that more traumatic than my childhood.
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Post by Nix on Nov 10, 2013 8:26:39 GMT -8
I too was bullied by my so called "friends in high school" the one girl slapped me across the face just for fun, and they,also cornered me one day and draw all over me with pens, as well as lots of emotional abuse like womany remarks names etc I was very shy and insecure,so,just used to,pretend to laugh and shrug it off but it hurt me so much on the inside and completely broke down my confidence and sel esteem.. After a couple of years I finally got the courage to stand up to the one and she ended the "friendship" immediately - was one of the most empowering moments of my life!
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