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Post by starkeeper on Sept 28, 2008 5:16:31 GMT -8
As I going thru recovery, I am trying to meet new people. Some maybe could be more then friends. My last poa really did a number on my self esteem. Nothing I did was ever good enough. She would criticize and put me down til I couldn't take any more. If I had any self esteem in the beginning felt worthless in the end. I am 55, due to some physical issues I am on disability but I do work part time. I am afraid of being rejected when I meet people and they ask questions. NOt to mention the la part. So I am feeling much anxiety about all this. Could use some thoughts.
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Post by needinanekg on Sept 28, 2008 6:38:13 GMT -8
Hey there -- If I could, I would slow down. Focus on yourself right now instead of a new relationship. You seem to need a little "you" time. In my past, this has been difficult to do. I would jump from one relationship to another because I could. I don't think that was wise of me. My advice to you is to slow own. Enjoy yourself. work on yourself.
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Post by bluebird on Sept 28, 2008 9:51:22 GMT -8
hi starkeeper, one way out of shame is to see the story from an objective viewpoint. you may get relief from writing. tell what you are ashamed of as if you are narrating it about someone you don't know. stick to the facts - no assumptions, judgements, or explanations - just the facts of what happened. when I do that I have more compassion and less guilt and anxiety. it gives me a step back and allows me to see.
i have really been there with the shame and anxiety. that's why i'm posting you. try this exercise. that is not a good place to be.
after you write, post again - you don't have to post what you write. just let us know how you are.
hugs, bluebird
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