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Post by Light on Mar 21, 2011 7:32:29 GMT -8
Hi all, now that I'm in late recovery (actually I do think recovery never ends)  I find myself trying to control my other addictive traits: overeating too much coffee compulsive behavior overtalking (if it exists - anyway I often talk too much) etc... With recovery I've found out I'm a compulsive kind of person and I'm trying to change. It's not easy ... I quit smoking almost one year ago (It was hard, but I'm so happy now) I'm on balanced diet (healthy food, finally) I'm making a little exercising (I 've always been lazy) So I'm making a great effort to change my compulsive personality. I've seen myself and my defects from the outside and I've started to control myself . It's a work in progress though.. Can anyone relate? Light |
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Post by brooklynberry on Mar 21, 2011 8:04:48 GMT -8
of course!
I think addiction is addiction and what we choose to be addicted to is often free floating.
My love addiction got worse when I got sober from alcohol
now i too have more eating/exercise issues.
It's like playing "whack-a-mole"
I can act out with shopping, coffee, talking, you name it.
It's why, like you said, we have to keep working on us. Recovery never ends!
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Post by overcomer on Mar 21, 2011 9:22:42 GMT -8
Absolutely I can relate!
It's true that "one thing leads to another".
So as I recover from my ex-POA addiction
or obsession towards my past friendship,
I'm also overcoming my seductive withholding towards admirers,
excessive reading, watching, studying, analyzing, and interest over hollywood news, etc.
Plus, I'm more cautious now in giving gifts. I try to balance
things now w/ GOD's help!
Great post Light! Thanks! : )
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Post by Susan Peabody on Jan 23, 2013 14:18:28 GMT -8
"Recovery" is a component of self=actualization which is becoming the best you can be. It is also called individuation, maturation, or just growing up (which my therapist once suggested I do.) The part of individuation that starts when you go into remission for various addictions is known as, for lack of a better word," recovery. Like growing up, recovery can be interrupted and we can regress backwards to child-like states. Eric Berne explains this in his work known as transactional analysis (parent, adult, child ego states). The Games People Play.While many addicts want to reach a plateu and just glide along, or better yet, graduate, recovery is really only remission and subject to a slip, relapse, set back, etc. This is my belief and it is not shared by everyone. Correct me if I am wrong, but I think LovelyJune and others on this board believe in a cure. The first 100 alcoholics who wrote the book, Alcholics Anonymous, referred to themselves as recovered. However, today, most alcoholics in AA use the word recovering. Choose what you want between these two points of view, but if you believe in a cure, please stay humble and watch out for this addiction because, as is alcoholism, it is "cunning, baffling, and powerful" [and insidious]." I had s setback during the 20th year of my recovery. I was set up by transference in therapy. I had another slip when my partner died 25 years into recovery. I bounced back both times and both times I never left my support network. I could really "feel" my recovery during the second slip because I did not get suicidal and it only lasted a few weeks. This is all just my opinion. community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43901/20092049/Recovered_vs_Recovering |
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