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Post by Loving My Life on Nov 29, 2012 17:07:20 GMT -8
12 Promises for Love Addicts
Writen by Susan Peabody and donated to Love Addicts Anonymous in 2004 1) I have a new sense of freedom because I am letting go of the past. 2) I am hopeful about my future relationships. 3) I can be attracted to someone without falling in love overnight, and I can fall in love without obsessing. 4) If love does not overwhelm me, I do not act out in addictive ways. 5) I can tell the difference between fantasies and reality. 6) I do not have to control the ones I love, nor let them control me. 7) I experience relationships one at a time, and I do not get involved with "unavailable people". 8) If my basic needs are not being met, I can end my relationships. 9) I can leave anyone who is abusing me, either verbally or physically. 10) I don't do for others what they should be doing for themselves. 11) I love myself as much as I love others. 12) I look to my Higher Power for strength, guidance and the willingness to change. Copyright LAA 2004 . . . |
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Post by redhead on Nov 29, 2012 17:33:45 GMT -8
Thank You I will be printing these out and reading them daily.
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Post by Susan Peabody on Nov 29, 2012 17:36:03 GMT -8
The original "promises" are in the book of Alcoholics Anonymous. THE A.A. PROMISES
If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness and self pity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.
Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us—sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them. AA is full of wisdom like this. |
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Post by calvin on Dec 1, 2012 3:35:34 GMT -8
These are fantastic - now on my study wall - thank you
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Post by Loving My Life on May 21, 2013 16:13:51 GMT -8
I just wanted to re-visit the promises, if you are not feeling like you will ever recover, just keep doing this, and the promises will come true for you too.
Print and post these where you can read them during the day, and believe these promises will come true for you as well.
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Post by Loving My Life on Oct 1, 2013 7:14:57 GMT -8
I wanted to re-post this, please read the "Love Addicts Promises" and The AA promises as well. And read these daily, and start believing the promises will come true for you also, if you keep working on yourself.
These promises came true for me, and continue to come true for me on a daily basis.
Keep coming back
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Post by chrysalis on Oct 7, 2013 7:47:44 GMT -8
These promises are truly beautiful. I have read them and find myself calm. I will be printing them and placing them on my mirror. Thank you for these promises.
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Post by Carito1988 on Oct 7, 2013 15:25:10 GMT -8
I agree with all your thoughts. I would like to add something:
1. I can only do it just if I decided but I can not do it by myself (I need the help of all of you, of the groups and the 12 steps to do it)
2. I can only get these promises to my life if I work on it every day.
Thank you all
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Post by Loving My Life on Oct 7, 2013 15:52:45 GMT -8
And that is why recovery is a "WE" program, not a "I" program. We can do together, what we could never do alone. And a problem shared is a problem cut in half.
I know this all probably sounds cliché, we just have to keep saying these things over and over, until we believe them, and our life will begin to change.
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Post by Loving My Life on Nov 9, 2013 7:27:52 GMT -8
These promises will come true for you also...One Day At A Time... You are worth it, and you deserve to be loved and love yourself first and foremost. Stop the insanity. Change is scary, but I can tell you it is much better on the other side. Never give up on yourself. Attachments:
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Post by Loving My Life on Feb 2, 2014 8:43:11 GMT -8
These Promises will come true for you also, never give up on you, and keep moving forward.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 22, 2014 6:46:30 GMT -8
These are very beautiful. And so realistic. If I compare them to the "false promise" of the addiction, I see a great contrast. The addiction promises perfect bliss, escape, happily-ever-after fantasyland. These promises speak the truth. But of course they do not happen magically. As the AA big book says, "they will always materialize IF WE WORK FOR THEM."
As was pointed above, notice the "WE" (I can't do this alone, and to me this includes my Higher Power); and notice that word I sometimes hate, WORK.
Simple rule of the universe: I will get out what I put in. Or karma: "there is no free lunch, and I don't get away with anything."
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Post by Deleted on Jan 7, 2016 4:29:18 GMT -8
I love these promises, I'm going to copy and paste this to my note book.
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Post by rosahorton on Aug 23, 2017 21:32:15 GMT -8
12 Promises for Love Addicts
Writen by Susan Peabody and donated to Love Addicts Anonymous in 2004 1) I have a new sense of freedom because I am letting go of the past. 2) I am hopeful about my future relationships. 3) I can be attracted to someone without falling in love overnight, and I can fall in love without obsessing. 4) If love does not overwhelm me, I do not act out in addictive ways. 5) I can tell the difference between fantasies and reality. 6) I do not have to control the ones I love, nor let them control me. 7) I experience relationships one at a time, and I do not get involved with "unavailable people". 8) If my basic needs are not being met, I can end my relationships. 9) I can leave anyone who is abusing me, either verbally or physically. 10) I don't do for others what they should be doing for themselves. 11) I love myself as much as I love others. 12) I look to my Higher Power for strength, guidance and the willingness to change. Copyright LAA 2004 . . .Thank you for sharing this.  |
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