Chrissy
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Post by Chrissy on Oct 26, 2008 8:20:49 GMT -8
Most of use who love too much are caught up in blaming others for the unhappiness in our lives, while denying our own faults and our own choices. This is an insidiously seductive approach to life that must be rooted out and eliminanted, and the way to do so is to take a good hard, honest look at ourselves. Only by seeing our problems and our faults ( and our good points and successes) as ours, rather than related to others, can we take the steps to change what needs to be changed.
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Post by Judy on Oct 26, 2008 12:08:24 GMT -8
This is so true, chrissy. Thanks for the reminder.
This has been brought home so intensely recently because through watching my mother suffering from years of untreated addiction and co-dependency and now dementia on top of it. In spite of her wonderful talents and personality she has blamed all her pain and whacko behavior on my father, who was an active alchoholic.
And then, I in turn, blamed all my bad choices in life on them, and the crazy upbringing we had!
Well, I am seeing ever so clearly now that I am responsible for my life. There are REASONS I made the kind of choices I made, but there are no longer any EXCUSES.
I do not want to end up at 77 (if I live that long) still unhappy about what happened 50 years ago.
Left untreated, these addictions just sap the spirit right out of you.
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