Chrissy
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Post by Chrissy on Nov 3, 2008 4:32:20 GMT -8
If you have ever found yourself obsessed with a man, you may have have suspected that the root of that obsession was not love but fear. We who love obsessively are full of fear- fear of being alone, fear of being unlovable and unworthy, fear of being ignored or abandoned or destroys.
We give our love in the desperate hope that the man with whom we're obsessed will take care of our fears. Instead, the fears and our obsessions, deepen until giving love in order to get it back becomes a driving force in our lives. And because of our strategy doesn't work, we try, we love, even harder. We love too much. [/center]
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Post by LovelyJune on Nov 3, 2008 12:39:32 GMT -8
this always blows me away.
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Post by geedee on Nov 18, 2009 4:45:32 GMT -8
fear of NC. fear lof letting go of the illusion and having to face what I had done. fear of admitting I hadnt been in love at all and that it really had all been in my head...this is so true but i have NO FEAR of admitting that now that I'm in recovery and loving God above all others. what a simple thing surrender is when you finally have that light bulb moment. absolutely brilliant. i love being in recovery!
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