mia21
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Post by mia21 on Mar 24, 2016 22:48:19 GMT -8
I am a torchbearer and suffer from severe shame flashbacks with events related to my interaction with my poa. I can't seem to forgive myself for my actions.I also feel very shameful if I watch anything remotely sexual or if anyone is being humiliated on tv for their inappropriate sexual behaviours.
I think it is my inner critic throwing all these shame attacks to protect me from my love addiction.I am also a codependent from narcissistic abuse.
Does my reasoning make sense? I'd like what others think of this. Thanks in advance for your wonderful support and comments. |
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Post by Kristana on Apr 24, 2016 23:01:57 GMT -8
I feel same.it ruins my day.i dont know what is the way out of shaming my self.
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newera
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Post by newera on Apr 30, 2016 10:23:59 GMT -8
It took me a long time to even realize what shame felt like. But once I was able to identify it when it was happening, then i could tell myself, "You are good, you are ok the way you are, there is nothing inherently wrong with you. You may have made mistakes in the past, but you can change your behavior for the future. Mistakes mean you are human, not a bad person."
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Post by Susan Peabody on May 1, 2016 8:15:42 GMT -8
It took me a long time to even realize what shame felt like. But once I was able to identify it when it was happening, then i could tell myself, "You are good, you are ok the way you are, there is nothing inherently wrong with you. You may have made mistakes in the past, but you can change your behavior for the future. Mistakes mean you are human, not a bad person." I had never head of shame and low self-esteem until I attended a AA meeting. Now I am writing and teaching about it. Children bond with their parents. They think they and the parent are one. This is how parents pass on their pain, burdens and emotions to their children. It is like osmosis or passing on a cold. Once the child sees that the parent is sad, then then blame themselves. I call this "mom sad: me bad." So now the child is ashamed. If you add to this a critical parent the shame goes deeper. When the child is abandoned they continue to blame themselves and are more ashamed. It goes on and on. In some cases the shame is so bad that the child splits. This results in more psychological problems including self-alientaiton which is the worst condition of all. Here is a link to an article that explains this . . . www.brightertomorrow.net/Original%20Wound.pdfBy the way . . . inner child work goes a long way to heal this. We have a complete forum on this. It makes me sad that this method has gone out of style. It really works. loveaddictionforum.proboards.com/board/14/inner-child-cornerThere are a lot of modern books about the inner child, but here is the one that changed my life. It is a classic.  |
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Post by Namaste6 on Aug 29, 2016 10:58:47 GMT -8
i have done naive things to attract attention of guys....embrassed myself.
anybody would lock me up in asylum
I ask GOD and HP to protect me from my insanity
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