Beware of the Seductive Withholder
Aug 29, 2016 19:47:29 GMT -8
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Post by Susan Peabody on Aug 29, 2016 19:47:29 GMT -8
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Dear Mary:
If he is finished completely just say "We are not compatible." Nothing more and nothing less. But if he is a seductive witholder you must hold firm on the no contact. So ask yourself. Is this a pattern. Does he come and go; come and go. If yes, and I suspect this is the case you must say, "Do not contact me or email me or try to get in touch with me in anyway. In such a situation you cannot be nice. In many ways he is ambivalent and cares. Just not enough to commit. Commitment withholders always want love but don't know what to do with it when they find out. Seductive withholders are very seductive when they feel abandoned and then dump you once they have you back in. Even Pia Melody was misled when she wrote her book. Because of her compassion for avoidants she threw in information about a trial separation. This simply does not work. Keep me posted.
Check out this link . . . BEWARE of the SW. Susan
mysticmandy.com/seductive-withholders/
Dear Mary:
If he is finished completely just say "We are not compatible." Nothing more and nothing less. But if he is a seductive witholder you must hold firm on the no contact. So ask yourself. Is this a pattern. Does he come and go; come and go. If yes, and I suspect this is the case you must say, "Do not contact me or email me or try to get in touch with me in anyway. In such a situation you cannot be nice. In many ways he is ambivalent and cares. Just not enough to commit. Commitment withholders always want love but don't know what to do with it when they find out. Seductive withholders are very seductive when they feel abandoned and then dump you once they have you back in. Even Pia Melody was misled when she wrote her book. Because of her compassion for avoidants she threw in information about a trial separation. This simply does not work. Keep me posted.
Check out this link . . . BEWARE of the SW. Susan
mysticmandy.com/seductive-withholders/
Only with certain individuals, though. I've had dating relationships where I felt stable, but then I've had attachments where I don't feel stable. I feel stable in relationships where the man is consistent but not pushy. I feel unstable with men who aren't consistent.