Post by Susan Peabody on Jul 19, 2020 17:01:55 GMT -8
In the book of Alcoholics Anonymous, it says because we abused alcohol we have forfeited the right to social drinking. In a similar fashion, love addicts have forfeited the right to fall in love without boundaries and going slowly.
This is because romantic love comes to quickly after the infatuation stage. We must go slowly even if we will feel the pull to fall in love overnight. We must set boundaries. We have to force ourselves to get to know someone before we commit. We have to make sure the person is compatible as well as attractive. We have to take seriously all the red flags.
For instance, I was a first date with someone who treated me very well. But he treated the waiter horribly. I could see he was a narcissist and that he would turn on me someday. No matter what we cannot be a slave to our feelings or even live in the moment. This is the time to look back and look forward to what will develop next.
I treat first dates like interviews. I look for these qualities before I make the next date. If these qualities are not there I move on even if I am already in love.
