Before You Begin

When I start a new friendship, it triggers all kinds of fantasies. But in recovery:

1. I can tell the difference between fantasies and reality (Promise #5).

2. I now have new, healthy fantasies.

3. I am looking for friendship with someone who is compatible and in recovery.

4. I am still, however, open to God's will for me.

5. I do not project anymore.

6. I do not believe that this is the one I have waiting for all my life for.

7. I realize that this new friendship might have some potential and it may not.

8. I proceed slowly.

9. I set boundaries when it is right to do so.

10. I expect healthy things like kindness and compassion for whatever I am going through.

11. I am flexible, but true to myself.

12. I am hopeful but cautious.

13. I notice red flags and deal with them rather than ignore them or sweep them under the rug.

14. I look for good communication skills, but I am not addicted to looks or superficial things.

15. I do an honest tenth step at the end of the day. Every day,

16. I turn the whole thing over to the care of God.