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Post by Susan Peabody on Jul 20, 2023 14:24:53 GMT -8
Outer Child
The Outer Child is a term created by Susan Anderson to describe the personality we created within to protect our Inner Child. She is the addict within. She also protects the Inner Wounded Child. My Outer Child is named Gretchen. She protects my wounded inner child Susan. Sometimes she uses anger to keep her safe. Sometimes she helps me stand up for myself and other times she goes too far. Today, a friend stood me up without calling to cancel. I had an anxiety attack because my mother would sometimes forget to pick me up at school. Then I felt rejected. To avoid feeling sad, I got angry and criticized her. Then I apologized and told her we were not compatible as coffee buddies, but we could still exchange emails now and then. I have learned in my old age that it is a waste of time trying to change people so it best for me to move on. I have this same problem with my son. We trigger each other and no matter hard we work at not doing this we both fail. So, we only talk once in a while. Letting go is part of my recovery. It is getting easier and easier.
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