Post by Susan Peabody on Jul 4, 2024 9:13:07 GMT -8
If you are a love addict, or even just a romantic, holidays can be hard. We want to be with a loved one as we watch couples enjoy the day together. I used to spend holidays crying when I was single and then after my husband died. I don't know if it is recovery or old age, but I am not fine today with spending holidays in solitude or with just a friend.
This is meant to be a message of encouragement for all those who get sad or depressed on Holidays. My only suggestion is that you find the joy you have when you have a partner with God and your friends.
These days there is no stigma to being single. Women are more independent and happier with themselves. When I was young things were different, or at least I saw them as different. Being alone on a holiday meant rejection, which for me led to loneliness and sadness. We must not look at it this way. Solitude can be a time for self-reflection and other good things. Consider the following quote.
"Naturally. How one hates to think of oneself alone. How one avoids it. It seems to imply rejection or unpopularity. An early wallflower panic still clings to the world. One will be left, one fears, sitting in a straight-backed chair alone, while the popular girls are already chosen and spinning around the dance floor with their hot-palmed partners. We seem so frightened today of being alone that we never let it happen...When the noise stops there is no inner music to take its place. We must re-learn to be alone." (Ann Morrow Lindbergh in Women and Solitude)