Post by Susan Peabody on Jul 26, 2024 18:26:10 GMT -8
Toxic Shame
Susan Peabody
Most Adult Children are shame based. As a result, they do not think they can change. The shame makes them feel bad, so they turn to mood-altering experiences to cope. When the mood-altering experiences get out of control they feel more shame. It is a vicious cycle that is hard to break out of.
Guilt is remorse for doing something that goes against our value system. Toxi guilt is letting our guilt eat away at us and becoming toxic shame.
Toxic shames comes in stages:
I did something wrong.
I am bad.
I am hopeless.
Even God cannot fix me.
I defective.
I deserve to suffer.
There is no redemption for me.
The word "toxic" is a metaphor for something that is poisonous to human beings and is usually hidden in our unconscious. The solution is:
A total acceptance of our humanity.
Changing our behavior.
Forgiving ourselves.
Not doing something anymore.
Making amends when necessary.
Loving ourselves as much as God loves us.
Growing up.
Exchanging toxic shame for healthy shame (humility).
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