Post by Susan Peabody on Aug 18, 2024 13:36:38 GMT -8
Many Adult Children are avoidant because of what they experienced as a child. They are terrified of repeating the cycle.
An avoidant is someone who will only go so far in a relationship, and when you get too close, they end the relationship. Sometimes on purpose and sometimes by sabotaging the relationship.
A serial avoidant does this more than once until you finally end the relationship yourself. They are seductive withholders.
An ambivalent does know he is an avoidant and so he hangs in there longer before he pulls back or ends the relationship.
Do not give an avoidant or ambivalent more than once. There is no future for this relationship.
I just ended a relationship with an avoidant which is why I am writing this. I could not have done this before recovery.
Love addicts fall prey to avoidants because they invest so much in the relationship. They have low self-esteem and do not think they can better. They are incapable of cutting their losses without a support group.