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Post by Susan Peabody on Oct 5, 2024 12:55:24 GMT -8
T.A. is only a tool to help us understand ourselves and others better. It increases self-awareness. Many of my male clients resist this tool. Carlos is one of those men, so I wrote him the following explanation of the Inner Child concept. Dear Carlos: The Inner Child does not mean that you are a child. You are an Adult. When we are born our brain starts to record everything that has happened to us. When the tape is full, it downloads our experiences into the unconscious and is forgotten. When we are adults, as you are, sometimes the experiences of our childhood come up from the unconscious in the form of unwelcome emotions. This only happens to some people. I don't think it happens to you but it happens to me. When this happens, I start to have two sets of emotions that sometimes contradict themselves. Until I learned this, I gave in and followed what my childhood feelings dictated. Now, like you, I only listen to the mature part of myself. It is a struggle, but I do it 95% of the time. An example would be falling in love with Vince. My Inner Child (childhood tapes or ego states) tell me to have an affair. My mature side says no. I mention this because I was wondering if part of you wanted the honeymoon to go on forever, and the other part (who is in charge) accepts that in a healthy relationship things need to go slow. I bore you with this, because I love to analyze things even more than I like Starbucks. LOL Attachments:
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