Letting Go of Misery

Until I was thirty-two my years old, my life had been miserable, so I got used to it. At some point, it became my identity, and this made it really hard to change. It was almost like I was addicted to misery and suffering. I wanted pity because I did not think I would ever find love. Self-pity was a substitute for self-love.

How did I go from resisting change to embracing it? In a nutshell, I finally realized that I had to change or continue being miserable for the rest of my life. Once I decided I wanted to be happy instead of miserable (a big step for me), I looked at what was standing in my way and what I had to do about it. I looked at the rewards of changing and I faced my fears. I prayed and I acted. Before I knew it, changing became a new habit to replace the old habit of resisting change. I have been on a roll ever since and writing this book is just another way for me to expedite more changes. For now, you see, I am intimate with the process of changing. It is my most cherished companion on this journey we call life.