Post by Susan Peabody on Jan 19, 2009 16:55:26 GMT -8
People in 12-step programs call a crisis experience “hitting bottom.” It is any experience, or series of experiences, that bring you to the point where you are ready to ask for help and to do something different. This works for very stubborn people who won’t change until their life is really a mess and being stuck has turned into what the book of Alcoholics Anonymous refers to as “incomprehensible demoralization.” By this I mean that all hope is gone and the person in question is either in a life-threatening situation or so depressed that she or he can barely get out of bed and may even be suicidal. Many people in the grips of such a dilemma die. They take their own lives, sometimes slowly through addiction, and sometimes quickly by jumping off a bridge. For others, however, this incomprehensible demoralization triggers a fear of death and then the next move is quite clear. Change or die!
Post by asianaries on Jan 19, 2009 19:10:17 GMT -8
Wow, that was a very good post Susan. I always talked to my pastor about this..meaning, I really have to make the decision to change in my life.
I do see myself being a VERY stubborn child who won't let go of her controllingness in order to have "peace" in her life. I walk through life not trusting anyone or fear of loving anyone...all along, I have been attracting the wrong people because of this wall that I have built up.
I HAVE TO CHANGE now..I can't play anymore games. Things in my life had really taken me to that point where I can't be worry about the small things or fear the unknown. I always told myself it's either DO or DIE NOW and I really do not have other options.