Chrissy
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Post by Chrissy on Jan 30, 2009 17:41:14 GMT -8
Most of the insanity and despair you experience comes directly from trying to manage and control what you cannot-him and his life. Think about all the attempts you've made: the endless speeches, the pleading, threats, bribes, maybe even violence. And remember, too how you've felt after each failed attempt. Your self esteem slipped another notch, and you became more anxious, more helpless, more filled with anger.
The only way out of all this is to let go, because he will almost never change in the face of pressure from you. Even if you do finally get to hear him say you are the reason he's giving up a behavior, later on you'll find that you're the reason he gives for resuming it. [/center]
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Post by Judy on Jan 31, 2009 5:40:43 GMT -8
Thanks chrissie. That passage brings up some powerful memories of what I did with a poa. It seems so long ago.
Just for today I never have to do that again. I am SOOOO grateful for that.
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seekingserenitynow
Full Member
3rd time with No Contact is feeling better every day. The obsessing is cooling WAY down. :)
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Post by seekingserenitynow on Apr 26, 2010 22:38:54 GMT -8
this thread ... and this whole "daily reflections from robin norwood" section of the forum ... is so powerful. man. powerful, powerful, important words! thank you.
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