Post by Susan Peabody on Mar 26, 2009 15:37:28 GMT -8
No one is purposely trying to abandon or reject me, and I can choose to remember this.
I don’t need to be a hostage taker. I can honor somebody’s saying “I am not available.”
How other people spend their time is none of my business, and I will not judge their choices.
“No” is a complete sentence. I do not have to change people’s minds.
I have enough people in my life that even if someone isn’t available to me I’m ok. I have God, other people, and meetings.
My serenity is not dependent on any one person’s availability. I can be serene even if no one is there to help me.
These affirmations worked for me. I read them everyday and internalized them. Then, the next time someone was too busy to help me, I felt less abandoned than before. As a result, I didn’t react so quickly and act out. Instead, I waited and talked to some friends. Then, what little abandonment I did feel dissipated, and I was able to look at things more clearly. For me, this was a great victory. I had changed.[/color]