Post by geedee on Mar 25, 2010 1:04:52 GMT -8
Woof wrote:
I once heard an excellent talk about self disciplin. It was a recovering SA using the analogy of a shipwrecked sailor. Every sailor knows thru training and experience that salt water will kill you. But after a few days adrift and dying of thirst the smaller more primitive part of our brain takes over. This is because the amigdala (spell ck) was designed to survive at all costs. It can overide rules and logic. It has been built into us for surviving. And an addiction is just that, it triggers the primitive brain and allows us to go against any commandment or social moral or personal promise. So the sailor begins to drink sea water because he chooses life but forfits his life if not rescued. Once the cycle has begun it is but a day or two before dying. Even though prior to this tremendous battle began. He knew not to drink it. How many of us have said "I would never do that"? And in just a few moments of pain we were breaking our own laws. This is what makes boundries so important. Or making that call to a safe person before we are too desparate. Because once this desparation is perceived as our own survival, we are powerless to act out. This talk made it easier for me to forgive myself and work on the root causes behind my pain. At the moment I am going back to my inner child to find his feelings of shame. This is where so many of my patterns were set for both the pain I carry and the old solutions I thought would save me. My work in this area has been extremely healing. W
I once heard an excellent talk about self disciplin. It was a recovering SA using the analogy of a shipwrecked sailor. Every sailor knows thru training and experience that salt water will kill you. But after a few days adrift and dying of thirst the smaller more primitive part of our brain takes over. This is because the amigdala (spell ck) was designed to survive at all costs. It can overide rules and logic. It has been built into us for surviving. And an addiction is just that, it triggers the primitive brain and allows us to go against any commandment or social moral or personal promise. So the sailor begins to drink sea water because he chooses life but forfits his life if not rescued. Once the cycle has begun it is but a day or two before dying. Even though prior to this tremendous battle began. He knew not to drink it. How many of us have said "I would never do that"? And in just a few moments of pain we were breaking our own laws. This is what makes boundries so important. Or making that call to a safe person before we are too desparate. Because once this desparation is perceived as our own survival, we are powerless to act out. This talk made it easier for me to forgive myself and work on the root causes behind my pain. At the moment I am going back to my inner child to find his feelings of shame. This is where so many of my patterns were set for both the pain I carry and the old solutions I thought would save me. My work in this area has been extremely healing. W
