Post by Light on May 27, 2010 9:21:49 GMT -8
..It's one of those moments. It happens when I'm a bit tired, as I am now, or when I watch my beautiful myspace profile and listen to the nice music on it. I like it. I relax a little and have a pleasant time after a day of work (today, after work I even spent a couple of hours rearranging the whashing machine room, at home. I was satisfied).
Myspace is still a little triggering for me. Anyway is no more the hell it was for me one year ago, when my heart was broken anytime my PoA refused to respond to me.
I don't want to renounce to my page because I love it and I use it for my art and networking and I don't want to renounce to listen to my music there.
But sometimes the combination tiredness, music, images, memories creates a languor and those strange ideas come again.
I have fantasized about making him a friendship request, I'm ashamed to write it, but I must say the truth.
The truth is that I broke no contact last week, after 6 months n/c and now I have to suffer a little the consequences. I knew the time of craving would have come again. I think it will always come, maybe rarely, but it will come.
Anyway now I can control it. I pray, I post here, I do something else, I reflect about the compulsion itself.
Today I'm wondering : what exaclty do I want from my PoA?
I guess I have to find the answer or the answers to this question because what I want I have to find in myself.
It's like if I want to figuratively feed with my PoA.
It's like if I'm "thirsting" for him.
I want him to know me, to know who I am.
I want him to make me better.
I want him to make me be happy.
I want him to save me.
I want him to look at me.
I want him to tell me nice things.
I want him to protect me.
I want him to hold my hand.
I want company.
I want intimacy.
I want identity.
I have to remember he doesn't want to talk to me and this is the reality, also I want to respect his will of not talking to me, also I want to respect myself not asking him anything.
I don't really need him in my life. My life is complete. I have love around me, I have love for myself.
But these moments still happen and I have to deal with them. I don't want to deny them. I want to control them and understand how they work, why they happen, what do I have to give myself to fill the void they rapresent.
Now that moment is passed, it was good and helpful to post here.
There are many other things in my brain that I want from my PoA but they are more complicated and I don't have time now to think about them and write them down.
But slowly I will add them to this post and I'll talk about it to my therapist.
Thank you for reading,
light
Myspace is still a little triggering for me. Anyway is no more the hell it was for me one year ago, when my heart was broken anytime my PoA refused to respond to me.
I don't want to renounce to my page because I love it and I use it for my art and networking and I don't want to renounce to listen to my music there.
But sometimes the combination tiredness, music, images, memories creates a languor and those strange ideas come again.
I have fantasized about making him a friendship request, I'm ashamed to write it, but I must say the truth.
The truth is that I broke no contact last week, after 6 months n/c and now I have to suffer a little the consequences. I knew the time of craving would have come again. I think it will always come, maybe rarely, but it will come.
Anyway now I can control it. I pray, I post here, I do something else, I reflect about the compulsion itself.
Today I'm wondering : what exaclty do I want from my PoA?
I guess I have to find the answer or the answers to this question because what I want I have to find in myself.
It's like if I want to figuratively feed with my PoA.
It's like if I'm "thirsting" for him.
I want him to know me, to know who I am.
I want him to make me better.
I want him to make me be happy.
I want him to save me.
I want him to look at me.
I want him to tell me nice things.
I want him to protect me.
I want him to hold my hand.
I want company.
I want intimacy.
I want identity.
I have to remember he doesn't want to talk to me and this is the reality, also I want to respect his will of not talking to me, also I want to respect myself not asking him anything.
I don't really need him in my life. My life is complete. I have love around me, I have love for myself.
But these moments still happen and I have to deal with them. I don't want to deny them. I want to control them and understand how they work, why they happen, what do I have to give myself to fill the void they rapresent.
Now that moment is passed, it was good and helpful to post here.
There are many other things in my brain that I want from my PoA but they are more complicated and I don't have time now to think about them and write them down.
But slowly I will add them to this post and I'll talk about it to my therapist.
Thank you for reading,
light