Post by lonely1 on Jun 21, 2010 9:25:42 GMT -8
Everybody has a 'basket'
In that basket are 'things'
- things they’ve done , things they want to do
- things they’ve said , things they want to say
- things wished not done or said
- some of the things are good: Angels in the basket
- Some are not good at all: Demons in the basket
Some dwell on the Angels
Some dwell on the Demons
I know I am one that subconsciously dwells on the demons….
. . .at this point in this discussion,
the specifics (the ‘what’ and how many) of the demons are unimportant.
At some time in our life, we surrender our power to what’s in the basket.
We define our identify by the contents of the basket
- Our identity is defined by what we see in the basket.
. . this is critically important !
There may come a time when we reach in the basket, grab a demon, set on the table like an ugly doll and attempt to slay it. Sometimes the best we can do it injure the demon….we feel failure and return the demon to the basket.
We enter relationships . . .
We can see the invisible basket of demons that others carry . . .and affine to them.
For some strange reason, however…persons with a basket of angels does not seem like the right person for us . . .or do we see the demons of others as angels or an opportunity to acquire an angel.
?
As the relationship continues, the other person may describe some of the demons in their basket.
Now is when the problems arise.
We reach into THEIR basket, take one of THEIR demons, set it on the table like a doll, and attempt to slay it FOR THEM.
We think we are doing the right thing….and become very confused or upset when the owner of the basket becomes angered at our actions. Worse yet, is when the anger arrives during the ‘slaying’ process instead of during the reach into their basket process.
What we failed to realize: we crossed a boundary that we can not seem to see.
- We reached in their basket ? No
- We tried to slay their demon ? No
We tried to change their identity . . .a person’s ‘prized possession’
Only the owner of an identity can change it….we can only support, and maybe assist
. . .but NOT change it FOR them.
In that basket are 'things'
- things they’ve done , things they want to do
- things they’ve said , things they want to say
- things wished not done or said
- some of the things are good: Angels in the basket
- Some are not good at all: Demons in the basket
Some dwell on the Angels
Some dwell on the Demons
I know I am one that subconsciously dwells on the demons….
. . .at this point in this discussion,
the specifics (the ‘what’ and how many) of the demons are unimportant.
At some time in our life, we surrender our power to what’s in the basket.
We define our identify by the contents of the basket
- Our identity is defined by what we see in the basket.
. . this is critically important !
There may come a time when we reach in the basket, grab a demon, set on the table like an ugly doll and attempt to slay it. Sometimes the best we can do it injure the demon….we feel failure and return the demon to the basket.
We enter relationships . . .
We can see the invisible basket of demons that others carry . . .and affine to them.
For some strange reason, however…persons with a basket of angels does not seem like the right person for us . . .or do we see the demons of others as angels or an opportunity to acquire an angel.
?As the relationship continues, the other person may describe some of the demons in their basket.
Now is when the problems arise.
We reach into THEIR basket, take one of THEIR demons, set it on the table like a doll, and attempt to slay it FOR THEM.
We think we are doing the right thing….and become very confused or upset when the owner of the basket becomes angered at our actions. Worse yet, is when the anger arrives during the ‘slaying’ process instead of during the reach into their basket process.
What we failed to realize: we crossed a boundary that we can not seem to see.
- We reached in their basket ? No
- We tried to slay their demon ? No
We tried to change their identity . . .a person’s ‘prized possession’
Only the owner of an identity can change it….we can only support, and maybe assist
. . .but NOT change it FOR them.
