mambo
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Post by mambo on May 14, 2011 9:45:29 GMT -8
I am both codependant and a love addict. The SLAA and Coda meetings are spot on for my situation. I don't have a sponsor for my SLAA meeting but someone has reached out to help me in anyway with Coda. I'm still pretty new to all this. Does it matter which 12-step I start out with. Can a person do more than one 12-step at a time. At my Coda meeting today someone said "at the heart of every addiction is codependancy" If that's the case, should I do the Coda 12-step first and then SLAA?
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Post by runrunrun on May 14, 2011 18:54:20 GMT -8
I did them concurrently. I used both books as guides. And my sponsor is experienced in both. They are very similar so I think you will do fine doing both at the same time.
Runrunrun
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Post by LovelyJune on May 15, 2011 2:50:50 GMT -8
Yes, it does matter. Do them from 1 to 12. Don't skip steps. They are designed to take you through birth, teen years, adulthood. They are building blocks that should not be skipped. We LAs already skipped a lot of steps to begin with. It's what got us in trouble in the first place. Don't skips steps.
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Post by overcomer on May 15, 2011 6:29:54 GMT -8
@lovelyjune: "We LAs already skipped a lot of steps to begin with. It's what got us in trouble in the first place. Don't skips steps. "
-That made me laugh! How true! Thanks!
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Post by brooklynberry on May 15, 2011 7:17:57 GMT -8
I work more than one 12 step programs. I think it's fine to do 2 at once (necessary, even) but make sure to keep them separate and do the steps in order. Great that you got a CoDA one, try for one in SLAA too.
nice work!
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Post by brooklynberry on May 15, 2011 9:19:06 GMT -8
I re-read this and it is my understanding that you're deciding which 12 step GROUP to do first, not which STEP to start with, right?
Start with whichever comes up first, like i said!
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mambo
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Post by mambo on May 15, 2011 13:52:59 GMT -8
Thank you all for your responses. Happy, yes I meant 12-step group. I've updated the title of the question. I will try and do both at the same time!
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